Saturday, August 31, 2013

Fourth Post

I would write my fourth blog post for the month (as that is generally the quota I hold myself to), but I am fresh out of ideas, so here is just a photo of me and twelve of the most amazing women I have ever met on a beach in Alaska. With knives.

Chelsea, Elizabeth, Lexi, Lauren, me, Courtney, Janae, Sara, Kelly, Kiley, Molly, Anna, Jordan. Did anyone notice that we are all wearing black pants?
[Click on the photo to enlarge]

I love and miss you all! Did this summer really happen? Did I dream that?


God bless.

Getting busy

One week into my senior year of college, and I have plenty of things to keep me busy already:
18 credit hours
looking for a job (or two)
planning my life beyond graduation
getting more involved with Cru
trying to get enough sleep
trying to have some semblance of a social life
working out regularly
having daily Jesus time
attending to my personal need for daily "introvert time" (the allotted time for vegetation on my couch with extremely limited human interaction)

But, just to drive myself a little crazy, I decided to sign up for another extracurricular activity this year. I thought it would be important to be involved with a group of people that wasn't Cru, which is comprised almost entirely of Christians. I felt that I needed to make more friends with non-Christians and be a little more ministry-focused with them, rather than just investing in my Christian friends.

[For those of you reading this who are not Christians, I am sorry if it seems like I'm putting you in a box. I really do want to get to know you for you!]

At first, I had the intention of joining the Ultimate Frisbee team at my school since I already knew several people on the team and I got to finally learn how to play this summer. But I decided that may not be the best choice for me since the team is made up almost entirely of men and I have recently been convicted to minister more (if not entirely) to women. (For more on this, please read: Femininity)

So, on Thursday my school had their organization fair. I spent most of my time at the Cru table, but walked around for a little bit picking up flyers from other tables. I felt a little late to the party, seeing as how I'm a senior and the organization fair is focused mostly on getting freshmen involved.

Although I got invited to join a few things I was not interested in, I did narrow my search down to a few things I am considering:
The Yarn Club (for knitters and crocheters-- I know the basics of knitting and would like to improve)
The Writing Club
The Ballroom Society (Also including, but not limited to, waltz, salsa, and swing dancing)
Our school's newspaper

I wish I could get involved in all these things, but for obvious reasons I cannot. I am still deciding. And that's all I have to say about that.


God bless.

Friday, August 9, 2013

Who Am I?

There is a question I have been pondering for a while, and will probably be fussing over for the rest of my life: Who am I?

Like I have a clue!
But I think I have a better idea than I did a few months ago.

I got quite upset during a conversation with Anthony one afternoon when he harassed me with this same question. I think he cared more about whether or not I had a good answer than whether or not he knew the answer for himself. I remember laughing nervously in my befuddlement, then apologizing for laughing. He must have been pretty amused by my emotional outburst spawned from such a simple question.

Finally, Anthony changed the wording enough that I managed to sputter, "I'm a woman of God." But then I got one of his classic lectures: "I would challenge you to explore this more."
 "Why? Why is it important? I spend so much time thinking about myself that I avoid knowing myself well so that I don't obsess over my own personality, which I struggle with enough as is!"
Then he proceeded to tell me that not knowing myself well would hurt my witness. He made some sort of sense when he said it. Something about evangelizing to people with compatible personalities.
"Well," I said, "how can I even know myself well? There are too many inconsistencies with me. What might be true about me sometimes will not be true all the time. How can I be even one character trait 100% of the time?"
"You can't, but you can have things that are mostly true about you."

This conversation came toward the end of a long summer when I had been undergoing a lot of personal change anyway. I was still becoming somebody. In fact, when will that ever not be true? I will never be the same person even from day to day. Literally the only thing I can think of that will remain static is my identity in Christ: I will always be his daughter. Everything else will change. Even my body will age and change. Some of the most defining characters of me have changed already; I'm not even sure I'm a total introvert anymore.

Still, I felt challenged by Anthony's demands for me to tell him who I was. In my head, I came up with the perfect opening to a follow-up conversation that never happened. "Anthony, have you ever heard the phrase, 'anyone driving slower than me is an idiot and anyone driving faster than me is a maniac'? No? Well, it's a thing. I think it really helps describe why it is so hard for me to know myself. I am my own standard of normal. I think almost everyone is like that, actually. If someone is braver than me, even a little, I think of them as being brave. Conversely, if anyone is just a little more timid than I am, I think of them as timid. Because I am my own standard of normal. I am the zero on any geometrical plane that I put other people on. Therefore I have no way of comparing myself to what is truly 'normal.'"

Despite all this, I began to legitimately consider phrases that might describe me. I quickly realized that I had to rely heavily on what other people said about me to know, which may be a good thing or may be a very, very bad thing.

I have two basic and very definitive sides: thoughtful...


and goofy...



I am not afraid to do what I want. I am confident...



I am bold, straightforward, honest, and blunt. I don't sugar-coat or water-down...



I am encouraging to others...



I am beautiful...



I am funny...



I am unique...




So okay. That's a good enough description for me. Now if some people who hate me are able to shed some light on what they think of me too, maybe I can get a more well-rounded picture instead of all the kind input my friends have. Not that I surveyed them or anything.

Now that I have put "Maryann" into words a little better, the real question becomes, How much does any of that even matter? How do I measure up to Christ? Isn't that where all comparisons should lie anyway? I don't want to make a list for that (me with Christ as the standard of normal), because I can't expose my sin and shame to the internet like that, the way I can with the good things about me...

When you put me next to Christ, I suck. Sorry to put it so foully. It's absolutely true.

But I am his daughter and he loves me.
I am a woman of God.

Isn't that a good enough answer for you, Anthony?
“How is it possible to spend all these years with myself and yet understand so little of who I am? This is just another answer that I don’t have.” -Josh Riebock

P.S. With all due respect to Anthony, he is a great, Godly, thoughtful man, and despite the difficult soul-searching he has caused me to do, I am grateful for it.


God bless.

Thursday, August 8, 2013

God's Creation

I was talking to William on the phone today about his upcoming STINT project and the Summer Project I just got home from. I started telling him about how one of the many things I learned this summer was the way I can connect with God through nature in a way I never realized I could before. When he asked for some examples, I gave a few but couldn't stop thinking of more in my head. Here are a few that I want to share with you in words (rather than photos, which I lack anyway).

- Hiking to the glacier was probably my favorite day in all of project. The three or four miles out to the glacier was literally the best hike I've ever been on. We scaled some rock faces, walked through the woods, hiked on rock carved by the glacier itself long ago, saw some unbelievably fantastic views, and were physically challenged along the way. When we got there, we hiked on the flat part of the glacier for a bit. The flat part was huge, but not compared to the entire glacier, which turned from a crusty flatness into huge teal and white spikes of frozen water. We hiked down to the ice cave then, where a stream was running along the bottom of it. The cave looked dark in the brightness of the daylight, but when we went inside, a blue light illuminated the magical world around us from through the ice above us. The smooth walls of the cold glass was dripping water in certain spots. I got close to one bit of the wall and looked into the ice. It was dotted on the inside with tiny round air pockets; frozen bubbles. It looked like a lacy spiderweb. Then, just to say I did it (and to conform with all the other ladies), I licked the glacier. It tasted like nothing. It was wonderful.

- Although for most of Project, the summer night sky never got dark enough for stars to appear, toward the end, there was a clear night and it had gotten late enough in the summer that I walked outside around midnight and there they were: a skyful of stars. And there was the big dipper, bigger than I had ever seen it before. I always tell people that stars are my favorite part of nature, so when I saw them that night, and felt so close to Heaven, I just let my head back and gaped. In my delight, I also showed anyone that walked by (mainly Ben).

- The women spent a day climbing Mount Jumbo on Douglas Island. It was a very cloudy day and you couldn't see the mountain at all from the road (where normally it could be seen clearly) because of the low clouds. We climbed it anyway and it wasn't long before we were decidedly in a cloud. It was a real shame not to have a view at any point that day, but the mystery of the atmosphere was so tranquil. We saw many beautiful things on that hike. So many flowers, rocks, patches of snow, a small clear stream with beautiful rocks sitting at the bottom, and of course, countless monstrous evergreens. We made it to the very peak and took lots of photos, but they don't look like much because of the fog. But we saw the beauty and lived in the unknown. And oh, how God plans and knows what we don't!

- For the last Women's Development that involved the staff being on Project, we went to Nugget Falls. I loved it. I scrambled up the rocks next to the falls by myself and admired the majesty and power of so much water coming seemingly from nowhere other than the side of a mountain. Beyond the falls in the near distance was Mendenhall Glacier, a gorgeous backdrop. Icebergs floated around unassumingly. Mountains rose in every direction. Small, vibrant flowers grew out of the huge rocks near me, which were themselves quite lovely, almost painted-looking. So God and I had a moment. I don't remember what we said to each other; probably very little. It was like we were wordlessly holding hands, squeezing with a ferocious and passionate love.

- For the women's closing ceremony with staff (I don't know what it was technically called), as well as our last-of-all Women's Development, we sat on a shore by Mendenhall lake. On the opposite side of the lake one could see the powerful, roaring Nugget Falls. From the distance it looked quite small, smaller than my thumb at arm's length. Beside it was several mountains, towering above and diminishing the falls. Remember the realistic hugeness of the falls brought me to the realization of the actual hugeness of the mountains that surrounded it. It was breathtaking to realize (again) how big everything around me was. And not only that, but stunningly beautiful. The second time we came to this location, the sunset turned the mountains pink. Can my words even do justice the breathtaking view that God gifted the thirteen of us ladies with that night? Oh, how he allures and pursues us!

- Just kidding, there is another time I was at this location; the day seven us joined Debbie, who took us kayaking for several hours across Mendenhall lake; first to the glacier, then to Nugget falls, around several icebergs, and back again. Just a different view and perspective of the same place, and as beautiful as ever from middle of the tranquil, silty lake.

- This (fishing day): http://juneausummerproject.com/?p=624

- We went camping at a sandy place called boy scout beach one night. Oh, how the sun was setting over the ocean channel that ran alongside the path that we took on the way out! How the flowers before and the mountains behind that channel dazzled! The tide was so low when we got there that we could go quite far out on the wet beach, where gulls mingled on rotting logs. The sun set late in orange streams, leaving the sky a dim blue even at midnight. Later, a golden moon set slowly but measurably over the nearby(-ish) range of snow-capped mountains.

- I'm not even going to mentions the other sunsets I saw at Blue Mussel Cabin, the island on the night of the summer solstice, or at The Shrine.

- Speaking of the night on that island (the name of which I don't even know, but it was in Auke Bay), there was something I experienced more than saw; exploring almost the whole island on my own. I went up and over, walked along the rocky beach on the other side, then scrambled all the way up the trail-less "mountain," where I hollered a few times into the trees. Climbing down was an adventure as I may or may not have gotten stuck in a patch of devil's club, and also had to slide on the mud on my butt a few times. I loved it. Having my own private adventure was the "Chris McCandless" of the summer that I needed. Just me, God, and the trees.

- On the flight out of Seattle on the way home (technically not in Juneau but still part of my summer experience), the plane was so high up that the mountains below us looked small, and the crevices between them had clouds sitting, settled. Then we passed, very nearly at the same level, the most ginormous, rugged, powerful, majestic mountain I have ever seen. It diminished the mountains below it to nothing. The patches of snow on it must have been miles wide. Its jagged peaks boasted its grandeur. Later that day, I couldn't believe the beauty and magnitude of a particular cloud. In between our plane and the cloud, I saw two other planes fly in the opposite direction, zooming past looking smaller than a grain of rice. And how miniscule they were next to the monstrous, white, wispy cloud in the distance, which took us half an hour at least to pass!

UPDATE: The mountain I saw was, I'm pretty sure, Mount Rainier. Look it up. Please.

- Daily views are hard to mention specifically. Many times I walked out of my job at Walmart and stood on the bus stop amazed at the mountains that surrounded us. Many times on a cloudy day, I watched clouds sift and mingle amongst the towering trees on mountainsides. Many times I saw blazing patches of the appropriately-named fireweed. Many times I looked out the car window (in fact, every time I was in a car, I was looking out the window), and my jaw dropped as I tried not to press my nose against the glass, even though we drove on the same road every day. Many times I was hiking and couldn't believe the plants, the trees, the streams, waterfalls, and rocks. Simply couldn't believe it. Many times I marveled that in the heat of summer there was still snow on mountaintops.


I promise I did more in Juneau than look at pretty things, but can you blame me for letting these experiences and sights burn in my memory like a branding? Surely God has branded my mind with his beauty, yet I thirst for more.

I don't intend to make anyone jealous, and I'm sorry if that's the result of you reading this, but I plead with you to share in my joy. Frankly, I will probably keep thinking of more things I want to record (like the cross at the top of Mount Roberts), but many of them would be lame to describe, something like "I was walking to UAS rec center in my sock feet and the trees were so beautiful and I marveled at the mountains and trees and I prayed." Sounds just like many of my other experiences, but truly profound for me in the moment and another treasured piece of my summer. Please, just... go to Juneau. Or some other Cru Summer Project or mission trip. Or somewhere in the world. Please, get out of your living room and go see and experience something. Why? Because God made it for you.

See other posts for photos.


God bless.

Saturday, July 27, 2013

Friends' Photos of Juneau (week 8)

These photos are in no particular order, and I lost track of who took which pictures, but if you read the captions, it shouldn't be too hard to follow. Enjoy!

On our way to the Cru meeting, dressed up for the $5 prom (a dance party where you wear clothes you bought at the thrift store for around $5) which immediately followed our meeting

Two years accident free at Walmart! It's a big deal, okay?! We got pizza and candy for lunch.

All the ladies' hands after tie-dying for Women's Development one night

My roommates and I being gangsters at the abandoned mine shaft

From the top of the tram at Mount Roberts (We climbed up and took the tram down.)

Jordan and me after a paint war on Sandy Beach


Kayaking with Lauren (and six others) to Mendenhall Glacier! Thanks to Debbie for being our guide

"Only Fools Run at Midnight" 5k. Everyone dresses up like fools to run this thing at midnight. It was overcast that night, so it was actually dark.

Resting on the hike back from the glacier. Seriously the best hike I've ever been on.

I'm sitting on a glacier!

Belaying Chelsea at the Rock Dump

Me on a hike during Women's Development

Sea Lions chilling out on Fishing Day

Quite literally in a cloud at the top of Mount Jumbo!

Fishing Day! Thanks Jason for being our guide

A view of the ice cave

The official summit of Mount Jumbo!

Walmartians represent after the paint fight

Courtney and me share some loving in the entryway of the ice cave

This is how Lauren lives vicariously through me. Women's Development

On the hike back from Mendenhall Glacier. Check out the reflection in my glasses!

Long story short: These are the two houses that did the best job at presenting the Gospel and as a reward got to shave MJ's impressive beard. I kept some beard hair and put it in my dreads.

Dressing up at the sleepover at Debbie's! Love some ladies' time.

A view of the entrance from inside the ice cave at Mendenhall Glacier

Summer solstice sunset from the beach of the island we camped at that Friday night.

My roommates at ladies' night out. I'm trying to still look like a girl after my haircut, so I'm wearing Kiley's earrings.

The legit waterfall by the glacier on the last Women's Development before the staff left

Having a moment of solitude before climbing Mount Roberts with the ladies.

Sandy Beach is where it's at.

Me next to the waterfall. Look hard and you can see me sitting on the rocks.

The roommates on the hike out to the glacier

All of us on the hike out to the glacier (we still had a mile or two to go at this point, believe it or not.)

The gorgeous view we had from the boat on Fishing Day

Inside the ice cave (taken from near the entryway). You can see me in the light blue jacket with my hood up, running all over the rocks.

Everybody after the paint war

Thank you, everybody for all your prayers and support! God is showing me some incredible things here and I appreciate everything you've done to help make this happen.


God bless.

Sunday, July 21, 2013

Cutting my Dreads

Yesterday I climbed Mount Jumbo on Douglas Island with a group of seven other Project girls. On the way up, Kiley asked me if my head was hot. Of course I was warm from the exercise, and my dreads were all stuffed up into my big beanie to keep them dry and off my neck, but I didn't realize how hot my head was until she asked this. After a few minutes I said, you know, I should just cut them off right now. Kiley's response: Dude, how epic would it be if we cut your dreads on the top of a mountain?!

Well, the top of the mountain was cold and extremely humid (we were quite literally in a cloud), and by the time we got up there everyone had pretty much forgotten about that conversation anyway. But I had been thinking about it the whole way up.

Why did I originally get dreads? The style is awesome, and I wanted to be unique and fun.

What did my dreads teach me? A lot; mainly how I can be totally comfortable with my individuality and not be afraid to express it. Because of the attention I got from them, I was able to start conversations with strangers that I never would have had the confidence to have before. It opened a lot of doors to the people that wouldn't otherwise be willing to talk to me--a young, white, suburban chick. I liked making people question stereotypes (I'm not a rebel, liberal, vegetarian, hippie, or pothead) which made people have to work to get to know the real me. Also, dreads were just really cool and fun.

Why did I still have dreads? Because people like them. Because I got attention from them. Because they made me look unique and that made me feel good about myself.

Frankly, that reason wasn't enough. Meanwhile, I had been missing normal hair a lot lately (and trying to make up for it by playing with all the other women's hair) and I had sort of lost my passion for dreadlocks. I used to be thrilled to talk about them all the time, but it had started to become a chore when I had to answer the same questions over and over and when that's all strangers wanted to know about me.

Besides, what I had to learn from them had, officially, been learned. I do have confidence when talking to people, I do have a pretty good grasp on who I am as an individual, etc.

I have been thinking a lot lately about all the focus I put on myself, in my own mind and around other people. I relish attention (in certain situations--not in front of a large group of people, oh no..) and feel like I am constantly turning conversations toward myself. I love answering questions but forget to ask them. And having dreadlocks totally encourages that! As you may have found by reading my post on femininity, I find that it's helpful to accompany spiritual change with physical change. So...

I wrestled with these thoughts all the way up and part of the way back down the mountain, and had a few conversations about it along the way. I realized that the only thing holding me back from making the decision to cut my hair was actually making a decision, like someone who "gets" the Gospel but isn't ready to make the decision to follow Christ or accept him because they are afraid of the major life changes that will accompany it.

So, I decided.

Last night around midnight, a bunch of people gathered in the lodge to help cut my dreads. As much as the goal of this haircut was to minimize making a spectacle of myself, I knew that this would be a big deal to people and I would have to be the center of attention for just a little while simply by making the change.

I have to say: it felt incredible to run my hands over my head (which felt super small),  and to scratch my scalp with no limitations. We never used the clippers one of the gentleman brought, so I still have a little bit of length on my head (probably about an inch). It was gross, though, how greasy my hands got just from playing with my hair, because I hadn't washed it in a week for the dreads' sake. Oh well. After we cut them off, I did wash my hair and Lauren trimmed me up to get it to look somewhat even.

As cool as my hair feels now, though, I look in the mirror and think I look like a boy. I guess that's what I was expecting. When I expressed this, an overwhelming number of people told me no, I'm beautiful, I look like a model, I totally pull off short hair, it looks so much better and more feminine than the dreads, my facial features pop more, and someone even said that now my face doesn't have to compete with my dreads anymore. It was a great to have that confidence boost from Godly women during a brief time of uncertainty.

My hope is that out of this experience I will become a more others-centered, Spirit-filled person. I will regain some sense of anonymity so that my life can be pointed toward Christ, not myself. Having dreads was good while they lasted, but in the end, all they did was yell "Look at me!" and that needed to end.

One more thing: I actually thought about all this in May when I was home from school, but made the decision to keep them at the time because I felt strongly that I would regret it and miss my dreads. I'm so glad I waited, because doing it when surrounded by a huge community of people that loved me was such a better alternative to cutting them myself, alone in my bathroom.

Although I essentially made the decision in a single day, the Lord has been working on my heart in this for a while, and it was time for the change to be made. I do not regret it at all.

My roommate, Lexi gets the first one!

Sara has at it!

Kiley's prediction at the beginning of the summer came true!

Melissa gets one! (I'm not paying any attention, haha)

Lauren's turn, finally!

Go Chelsea go!

Kelly gets a dread!

Paul is serious about cutting dreads.

The pile is growing.

Annaaaaaaaaaaa!!!!!!! (Running out of caption ideas...)

Cameron gets a go!

Elizabeth tackles the back! 

Nasty short hair from the side

SO MUCH HAIR

Wild!

After I washed my hair and Lauren trimmed it. I have much dislike for the little bangs, so I've been pushing my hair back since this picture.

A few more pics I've taken with my phone for people that have wanted to "see my head":






Tada! Okay, now you know. Let's talk about you. Or Jesus.


God bless.