I have the tendency to try to jump the gun on my life, and it's unwise.
I've never done anything too stupid, because fortunately I've almost always realized how foolish it is to get in over my head before I actually do it. But I tend to forget the importance of training; I just imagine myself at the end goal.
Let me try to be a little more specific.
Let's say I got it in my head that I wanted to be a marathon runner. I'd fantasize about being incredibly in shape, running across that glorious finish line, exhilarated, having barely broken a sweat. But I'd hardly consider the fact that first I'd have to get off the couch and run my first treacherous mile to train. In fact, if I did consider it, or even attempt it, I would probably throw the whole dream away.
But that's really no way to live life.
I don't have fantastical dreams about running a marathon (although I would like to get more in shape). For the last few years I have had a dream of becoming a counselor. (Like a psychologist but without having to get a PhD.)
I figured out before I graduated college, fortunately, that I would not be ready for graduate school right away. I would not be able to power through school to get a Master's degree so that I could be a counselor. First I would need training.
I've been training to study, take tests, and write papers all my life. But I've only known a few people with mental illnesses. There's only so much one can understand about abnormal psychology from a book. It has to be seen, observed, conversed with. Few people are "textbook cases," but all of them are real and dynamic, much more than a book lets on. They have unique thoughts, tragic stories, complex relationships.
So I knew that with my dinky but wonderful little bachelor's degree I had to get out into the field and get some experience. I had to train.
After about six months into my first mental health position, I asked myself, Why don't I go back to school? I am only postponing my dream job by waiting.
I had to remind myself not to jump the gun.
Now, I'm moving across the country to continue my training.
I'm going to train physically. I'm going to tread on spiky land instead of flat land.
I'm going to train musically. I've made up my mind to finally learn how to yodel. I don't know why I can't do that here, but it's one of the next goals on my list, so whatever.
I'm going to train linguistically. I intend to take classes in American Sign Language. I think this will be a very valuable skill.
I'm going to train in my writing skills through a project Lexi and I want to try.
I'm going to train spiritually. Wilderness apparently is very good for my soul and I intend to spend more time in it.
Finally, I'm going to train in my career. This is the biggest one. I'm going to keep doing what I'm doing, really. I'm going to work with mentally ill people until I am ready to take the big step toward graduate school and ultimately toward being a counselor.
These next two months before I leave feel like training to train, which is a little awful and a lot exciting.
I'm crossing the threshold between the living room and the weight room.
God bless.
Music, laughter, and silence are the three best sounds in the world. Are you listening?
Monday, March 30, 2015
Sunday, March 29, 2015
In a Way (Untitled Poem)
I wrote this poem about two years ago but I don't think I've ever published it. It was written to be a spoken-word poem that I've performed twice.
In a way,
What she saw in the mirror
Was an upside-down bell curve.
It started before she knew
That body image could exist
And she was blissfully ignorant
Of how beautiful she was
But she knew by fifth grade
That the clothes her mom
Would not let her pick out
That she based on their quality, not style
And whether or not they were cheap
Were weird.
That’s when that ignorance started
To turn
Into the monster of knowledge
At age twelve, she refused
To really smile
for school pictures
Because her teeth were crooked
And her peers had braces already.
But her first year of high school
Was the bottom of the bell.
Not only did she stand
In front of her mother’s
Bathroom mirror
And pull out her eyebrows
Strand by unrelenting strand,
She stopped eating.
He was cute and he said “love” to her
He was as thin and tall as a silver sword
And he made her buy the tickets
To the homecoming dance
The week before the dance,
Her mom took her to a real store
To buy a homecoming dress
Which she honestly
Didn’t get what that meant.
What it was supposed to look like
And how it was different
From what you wear to church
But she stood in the changing room
And looked in the mirror
At her stark, unsuspecting body
And saw, for the first time,
Someone who was too fat.
That last week before the dance,
She learned
How much weight you could lose
And how fast it could be done
But it didn’t matter
Because he wouldn’t speak to her
And he didn’t take her to the dance
And he told her in an email
That they were through.
But it did matter.
Because now she had a secret.
Now she had a solution.
She stopped packing lunches
And told her few friends
That she was fine, not to worry.
She didn’t eat dinner sometimes
either
Because her parents
Might have actually believed her
When she said she felt ill.
She learned to love and welcome
The lion that visited
Her stomach more often than not
She let him stay
But taught him how not to roar.
And every night,
A journal would bear witness
To how much she had eaten
And what she could do better.
It wasn’t about control.
It probably wasn’t about beauty.
It was about love.
She was walking the tracks
Between a world that told her
“I love you unconditionally”
A world where her parents,
her God,
and some of her friends lived
And a world of worldliness
That said
“Do this and I’ll love you.”
“Do this and you might be good enough.”
Who in their right mind would reject the former
And embrace the latter?
Who in their right mind would trade true love
For a plasticized, vomit-filled mannequin of it?
Perhaps that fourteen-year-old
Had discovered insanity.
But
With the devil’s smothering presence
Came a deep fear
Which led her to pray.
She was trapped in a downward spiral
Toward a prison called Anorexia
And she knew it.
And she knew that only
One God
Could help her escape.
The Lord answered.
And she slowly started coming
back up the bell curve.
She now knows she is beautiful.
Even though she longs
for the childhood ignorance.
But more importantly
She knows that she is loved
She knows that love
Cannot be earned
Will never run out
And who in their right mind
Would choose beauty over love
Anyway?
Would choose beauty over love
Anyway?
God bless.
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