Wednesday, November 19, 2014

Date Your Friends

I don't mean "date your friends" as in choose only significant others that started as a friends (not that that is a bad thing). I mean make your friends a priority in your life and spend time with them.

This post is inspired by my fairly new friend Sarah who had dinner at my house for the first time tonight. While we talked about this subject, "dating" friends, I think the event itself it fits the topic. We sat around my dining room table for not quite, but almost, four hours, chatting about a variety of things and getting to know each other better. Having a few deep, intimate moments and some moments of laughter, some anecdotes, some dreams about the future. Like dating... but friends.

How many marriage advice columns have you read that could be applied to virtually any meaningful relationship?
"Forgiveness is key"
"Laugh together"
"Communicate well"
"Say you're sorry"
"Make time together a priority"

We have glorified romantic relationships and diminished friendships. We have made true love life's greatest goal and we have emotionally assaulted the single people of this world, shunning their utter failure to conform. But romantic relationships are not the greatest good. Neither are friendships, I suppose, but they're worth a lot more than I think we give them credit for.

It's time we dated our friends.

Next time you read a list of "50 creative/fun/cheap things to do with your S.O.," read it instead as "50 creative/fun/cheap things to do with one or many of your friends."

Get to know your bros and gal pals intimately. Care for them. Invest in them. Be intentional.

I invite you to do pursue such a habit (lifestyle, even) alongside me. Chasing after what I think I want has gotten me nowhere, and it's time for a change.

Me being passionate with Kiley


God bless.

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