Friday, December 26, 2014

Land

I grew up in a world (the city/suburbs) where land is malleable. It is controllable. It bends to human whim.

Flowers only grow where they are planted, and the only thing that will allow anything else to appear there is neglect. Need to build a house with a basement? Make a hole in the ground. Need to build an exit ramp for the overpass? Putting up a nice slope will do the trick. A hill got in the way of your road? Blast right through it, and put fencing on the rocks to keep them from avalanching down onto traversing vehicles.

No stone goes untouched from human hands. Even "wilderness" is only there because we have allowed it to stay, and it ends in a straight line where the corn fields must begin. Our fingerprints are on every piece of earth.

There really is nothing wrong with all of this. Civilization must progress. Cities must grow with the population. Farmland is crucial. For the majority of my life, this is all I've ever known.

In 2013 I experienced something much different, something much more powerful and mighty and ominous: the power of the land.

I left my concrete world and entered one of mud and trees. I saw snow-covered mountains for the first time. I saw a glacier. I saw the land in a much, much different way.

For the first time, I saw how humans must yield to the land rather than the other way around. There is no road going in or out of Juneau; the only way is ferry or plane. Why? Because the mountains, ice fields, and ocean get in the way. A road simply cannot be built. No major cuts were made in the rocks for highways to plow through. Houses were built on mountainsides rather than nice, flat neighborhoods. The only way up a mountain was the most natural, primitive way: on foot.

If someone didn't like that mountain there, there was nothing they could do about it. It's not going anywhere. Neither is the glacier. Or the ocean. Or the bears. Or even the trees. You can chop one down, but the mountains are positively carpeted with them, and no machinery could even begin to sift through them.

Because of this massive power of the land, the locals have a much different attitude toward the land than I am used to. That summer, the city decided to build a round-about right between the docks at Auke Bay and the university. It made sense, as the fork in the road that existed was over-trafficked. But in order to move forward with construction, a tree in the fork had to be removed. I remember my bus driver fussing about that, and he was among many of the locals who were upset. This tree had no particular sentimental meaning that I'm aware of, but the idea of unnecessary killing a tree was quite upsetting to them, even though they had innumerable others! They respected and wished to preserve the land.

This is one thing I greatly miss about that place. I miss simply facing the awe-inspiring power of the land beside my powerlessness on a daily basis.

Recently I have noticed some degree of the power of land here in my home, state, however. My grandparents' house is crumbling before their eyes due to erosion, despite many hired attempts to "fix" it. I didn't even know until today that I live on a fault line, making the destruction of earthquakes feasible. And although they can blast a hole in a hill to make way for a highway, they can't move that hill or flatten it. Besides, the weather is uncontrollable everywhere in the world. We are at its mercy.

The devastation that land can bring, with all its might, is horrifying. Why do I love it so much? Why don't I grasp for control?

I suppose it's because I know that God is the only one who can protect me from himself.

God's wrath is absolutely necessary, but when we trust in him, he shields us from it. God's might does not terrify me, it delights me. Of course, I am (almost) speaking metaphorically in comparing him to the land. After all, the earth is simply a manifestation of this attribute of his.

I intend to dance among the trees that cannot be moved.





God bless.

Anticipation

On one hand, I can handle anticipation. I actually like it. Growing up, kids my age would brag about being able to unwrap presents to peak at their Christmas presents and wrap them back up without their parents knowing, but I never understood the logic of that. Why ruin the surprise? Some families let their kids open one present on Christmas Eve, but that also felt like cheating to me. When I got older and my parents put out "Santa's" presents before I was even in bed on Christmas Eve, I always diverted my eyes so as not to ruin anything for the next morning. The waiting was worth it.

Anticipation builds affection. It makes you excited for what is to come. I heard someone say something along those lines when referring to pregnancy. During the nine months of gestation, a woman is falling more in love with the child she has yet to meet. I hope that someday I can experience this as well. It will be like Christmas.

But for some reason, I do not delight in anticipation that has no end date. The second coming of Christ... I have ants in my pants, as opposed to the first coming of Christ, which rolls around on December 25th every year. It's something I can count down to. 

Another one: getting married. If I ever get married (Lord willing!), it sure won't be tomorrow or the next day, or anytime in the foreseeable future. That's not a joyful anticipation I have. It's an irritated one. I want to be able to count down, darnit! I want to know when this "husband" will come waltzing into my life so that I can plan accordingly. I want to know if I even have anything to look forward to.

Thus, here is a question that I don't have the answer to. How do I wait for things without a due date in joyful anticipation and excitement, the way I do for things with a due date?

If you have the answer, let me know.




God bless.

Sunday, December 14, 2014

Radical

A week ago, I went to a women's Christmas brunch and book exchange at my church. The book exchange was set up white elephant-style, so when your number came, you could either pick one of the wrapped books from the table, or steal an unwrapped book from somebody. I was number 5 of about 50, but number 4 got a book I had seen in the bookstore about six months ago and really wanted: Wild by Cheryl Strayed.  I unabashedly stole it from her.

Then it got stolen from me.

I didn't steal any more books in the game, but I kept getting them stolen from me, so I had to keep going up and unwrapping new ones. I unwrapped a paleo cook book, an old novel that didn't really pique my interest, and finally, at almost the very end of the game, ended up with a book I had never heard of called Under the Overpass by Mike Yankoski. It's a book about two men who, feeling convicted about how their faith in God would stand if they didn't have their lives handed to them on a silver platter anymore, became intentionally homeless for a period of time. I was really excited about it.

This week has been a busy one, and I've only managed to get one chapter into the book. But I love it already.

I just took a picture of the line, "Perhaps you, too, have felt a nudging toward a life on the edge--some place or task in your life where, as Frederick Buechner put it, 'God's great mercy and the world's great hunger meet,'" and texted it to my accomplice, Lexi.

Although I have never considered a intentional homelessness (that is to say, I have never felt convicted to take it up), I have always dreamed of nobly living an off-beat lifestyle. I have brain-stormed ways to make my life different in a good way, regardless of whether others see it as a "good way." I want to live a life worth writing about.

~~~

In the summer of 2013, I managed to take a leap of faith and went on a mission trip to Juneau, Alaska. I had the time of my life and left figuring it was goodbye for a long time, if not forever. But in the summer of 2014, I found myself there yet again.

I realized I had fallen deeply and madly in love. With the land, mostly. With God and the way he made himself known to me there. Saying goodbye the second time was on the verge of heart-breaking. I took a lot of photos of the town and surrounding land from the airplane window.

I came home and moved into a lovely little house surrounded on four sides by other lovely little houses only a few blocks away from where I went to college. I found an awfully stressful, but beautiful job helping people with severe mental illnesses. I started sinking my toes into the mud of my city and my church. I tried to cultivate my love for the town and life I was living in. And God helped me to do so.

Still, there was one little pocket of the planet that I was unable to shake out of my head.

After deciding with Lexi that we were going back up there to live, I told her I felt like we needed a vision. Were were going just for fun, to get our kicks? Or were were going to live to a higher purpose? What would that higher purpose be? Neither of us really knew.

Radical lifestyles are not easy to come by. Choosing homelessness is not an option for me if simply for the fact that I am a woman and therefore would be much, much more vulnerable on the streets. Long-term mission work is not anything I feel compelled to do anymore as, although I believe it is good for certain people to live this way, I do not want to rely on others' charity as my sole source of income. I do not have the cultural training, language skills, or rigor to go very far beyond English-speaking countries (yet). I also have to work with the fact that I am unmarried: a blessing because I have more freedom to go where I choose and when; a curse because I do not have a built-in, like-minded accomplice.

But what is so radical about a simple move? When I tell people I'm going, people react by saying how cool/exciting it is. Some people ask me what my motives are. A lot of people ask me if it gets really dark there. But no one looks at me like I'm crazy, which indicates to me that I am not living radically enough.

But that is a lie. I think I found my radical vision. It's just not a very obvious one to the naked eye. My life in the 49th state will probably not look drastically different than the life I'm living now. I will rent a cute little apartment or house. I will invest in a church. I will live with roommates. I will go to work every day. I will go to the grocery store.

But it will be different. I will not be risking my finances; I will be risking my sanity. I will be entering a world where, for six months out of the year, utter darkness will consume more than its fair share of the hours of the day. I will be entering a world where, according to CBS News, Alaska has the highest suicide rate out of the 50 United States. I will be entering a world where depression and alcoholism run rampant. Homeless rates are more than 2.5 times what they are in my home state. I will be dealing with these problems on a daily basis, assuming I find a job similar to what I am doing now.

I will not be getting down and dirty with those in poverty in third-world countries. I will not literally be in the trenches. But I will be figuratively huddling in the dark, in the cold mud, with the emotionally and mentally needy. I will risk a lot in terms of my own mental and emotional state. I will probably cry even more than I do now over the brokenness of the world. But that is the radical life I want. Besides, I will not be alone. I will have my companionship in Lexi, any other roommates I may have, my church, etc.

The beauty of it is that I will continue to see lives restored as I am now. And every day I will walk out of my front door and see snow-capped mountains, towering evergreens, misty gray fog, sunrises and sunsets, stars more plentiful than I ever dreamed or imagined, and for the first time in my life, the green dance of the northern lights.

So I think I'll love it. I think God will sustain my mind and hope.

Pray for me as I embark on a journey of a lifetime. I don't know how long I'll be gone and I certainly don't know what the outcome will be. I don't know if I can anticipate how my heart will break and swell.

But, for now, this is what I choose.


God bless.

Saturday, December 6, 2014

Not Knowing

If you haven't noticed, my blog has turned into me basically talking about what my brain has been doing lately.

My failure to write is not due to a lack of thoughts. Quite the contrary. Rather, my thoughts/inner struggles have been consistently been turning back to "I don't even know."

And that's nothing to write a post about. I can't say, "I was thinking about ______ but IDK???"

So, sorry. Turns out I don't have all the answers.



God bless.

Wednesday, November 19, 2014

Date Your Friends

I don't mean "date your friends" as in choose only significant others that started as a friends (not that that is a bad thing). I mean make your friends a priority in your life and spend time with them.

This post is inspired by my fairly new friend Sarah who had dinner at my house for the first time tonight. While we talked about this subject, "dating" friends, I think the event itself it fits the topic. We sat around my dining room table for not quite, but almost, four hours, chatting about a variety of things and getting to know each other better. Having a few deep, intimate moments and some moments of laughter, some anecdotes, some dreams about the future. Like dating... but friends.

How many marriage advice columns have you read that could be applied to virtually any meaningful relationship?
"Forgiveness is key"
"Laugh together"
"Communicate well"
"Say you're sorry"
"Make time together a priority"

We have glorified romantic relationships and diminished friendships. We have made true love life's greatest goal and we have emotionally assaulted the single people of this world, shunning their utter failure to conform. But romantic relationships are not the greatest good. Neither are friendships, I suppose, but they're worth a lot more than I think we give them credit for.

It's time we dated our friends.

Next time you read a list of "50 creative/fun/cheap things to do with your S.O.," read it instead as "50 creative/fun/cheap things to do with one or many of your friends."

Get to know your bros and gal pals intimately. Care for them. Invest in them. Be intentional.

I invite you to do pursue such a habit (lifestyle, even) alongside me. Chasing after what I think I want has gotten me nowhere, and it's time for a change.

Me being passionate with Kiley


God bless.

Sunday, November 16, 2014

Addendum to: Impossible Dreams

Since I posted "Impossible Dreams" mere hours ago, I have been unsettled. I think I know exactly why.

I imagine many of you reading it and wondering why God has not made your dreams come true. I imagine many of you re-facing terrible wounds and scars from unanswered prayers. I imagine you becoming infuriated with me because I have told you that God will grant you something that he hasn't and won't. I imagine you doubting his goodness and love.

I'm sorry if this is the case. I want to clarify.

Believe me when I say that I know what unanswered dreams are. I am not old; I have not gained much wisdom or life experience. But already I have suffered intolerable pain. Here is one example.

I dated a fellow a few years ago. He was the only boyfriend I had that my parents really didn't like, but I loved him so fiercely. I was much, much more in love with him than any other man I have encountered before or since then. Now, I am of the belief that Jesus saves those who accept the salvation he offers. As for the rest, those who reject him and his salvation... well, I believe in Hell, too. And this particular man completely rejected even the existence of God let alone his love and salvation. Maybe you can imagine my heartbreak, maybe not.

I cried out to God on his behalf. I wept for hours (not hours total, but hours at a time), begging God to bring life to this man's dead soul.

And as far as I know, God has not answered my prayer.

I have spent over two years picking up the pieces of my heart.


I prayed that God would give me a meaningful job after graduation, and that he certainly answered. But my job also consists of walking through intense darkness with my clients suffering from severe mental illnesses. It's a heavy weight, and whether I'm clocked in or out, I can feel the cloud hanging over my head. After my pastor preached on depression this morning, mascara streamed down my face for the remainder of the service.

So despite my post earlier today, my life is not entirely peachy.

I don't know why God does this. I don't know how he picks and chooses dreams to grant and dreams to deny. His goodness is prevailing; I can trust him with that. I can believe it in my head even if I cannot understand the reason why.

I don't know why some people suffer with mental illness their whole lives. I don't know why there is such a thing as the "cycle of poverty." I don't know why crimes are committed against the innocent. I don't know why you're still not married or why you still haven't been able to have children. I don't know why you're in a job you hate. I don't know why your closest loved one is dead or dying.

But God is still good. Please hear me! Jesus himself despaired; he felt the pain you feel. He is the only balm for your soul. If you cannot have faith in impossible dreams, remember that this life is temporary; the days of your pain are numbered. Hope in Christ, hope in Christ, hope in Christ. Through him, joy is coming. That is a promise.


God bless.

Disclaimer: Some of the ideas I just wrote about are from straight out of my pastor's sermon which will be available to listen to later this week on veritascolumbus.com.

Impossible Dreams

When I was a little girl, I told my mom that something I wanted to do before I died was to see a firework from above. I don't know if I understood that fireworks are spherical rather than circular, but for some reason I thought it would be a cool perspective. Mom told me it probably wouldn't be that great of a view considering the background would be all the stuff on the ground rather than the plain black of the sky. I saw her point, and knew that my dream to ever see a firework from above would probably never happen, but for some reason I always remembered that conversation.

Some dreams are just not meant to come true.

I still continue to have impossible dreams. These are more than just items tossed on a bucket list, or simple prayer requests; these are things that I can only dream about, but doubt they could ever be a reality. They're too good to be true. Perhaps God can and does make "dreams come true," but is that something I can expect from him? Aren't those only for the blessed few?

God has made some of my dreams come true. I remember a few years ago desperately longing, out of the blue, to go to Jamaica. Soon, an opportunity to go there for a spring break mission trip was practically placed in my lap, as well as the funding from generous donors. God gave me such joy from this brief but poignant answer to a dream. A few months later, I got to go to Juneau, Alaska. A year later, I got to go back to Juneau. My point is not that I am well-travelled, because I'm not, but that God fulfilled the longing in my heart to be elsewhere. You can literally go back a couple years on this very blog and watch the story unfold.

A few months ago, there came a deep and troubling longing in my heart to be back in Juneau again. A third time. It seemed like such an impossible dream! I would be so far away from home and family and familiarity... But if only I could live there! If I could walk out my front door and see those stellar views again. I ached and I craved.

God has blessed me with all I dared ask for right here, where I am in the lower 48. He gave me a lovely place to live, a very meaningful job (which for a while was my fervent request, but not an impossible dream), an amazing church, and my family within arms' reach. How could I be discontent? How could I ask for more?

Many of you probably haven't heard yet, but it's happening. I'm moving there and I don't know how long I'll stay. Perhaps only a year. Perhaps forever.

I have faith in impossible dreams now. They may still seem just as impossible, but at least I can know in my head that God loves to give them to me. I have more impossible dreams that are too personal to mention here now and that I know are far from being granted, but I believe in God's pleasure in making impossible things come to life. So I don't give up as easily on the impossible anymore.

Let me close with this:

I was flying home from Juneau on July 5 this year. The sun and our plane parted ways over opposite horizons when traveling from Seattle to Chicago. I took pictures of the dazzling clouds despite knowing that those pictures could not compare to what was seen with the naked eye. Night fell. When we got near Chicago, I saw something that caused tears to roll down my cheeks and my heart to sing praises to God. I saw fireworks... lots and lots of fireworks, from above. The background was a beautiful, glittering city. It was positively stunning. God took care to grant me my silly childhood dream. Now, whenever I think of impossible dreams, I think: fireworks from above.

I sat in the Chicago airport that night and wrote a letter to Aunt Amy about what I had seen and the boost of faith that God had given me; that I doubted less now that God could and would do miraculous things in and through my life.

May God also put fireworks from above in your life. His sweet tenderness toward me is yours as well. His love for you is just as great as it is for me or anyone else.


God bless.

Monday, November 3, 2014

Laziness

I want everyone reading this to know that I wrote it about a week ago and was too lazy to ever finish or edit it:


Today's prompt from 365 Days of Writing Prompts is called Breakdown: "Tell us about a habit you'd like to break. Is there any way it can play a positive role in your life?"

Yes! I do. My roommate would probably say it is Candy Crush, but I would say it's a bigger habit than that: it's laziness.

The only possible positive role my habit of laziness may have in my life is it keeps me from over-working myself. On the spectrum, I definitely lean more toward not doing enough than doing too much. And maybe that's a good thing. Maybe.

I knew getting an iPhone would doom me, yet here I am. Thank goodness I was smart enough not to download the facebook app. But I was foolish enough to download Candy Crush and other time-sucking games.

I play them under the guise of relaxing my brain, especially after a long day of work. I just need to wind down, I tell myself. Texting is suddenly faster (and funner) now, too, so I've been doing a lot more of that as well.

But I can't blame my sin on my phone, now can I? No, I had the same problem years before I ever got my first cell phone. My whole life has been spent in front of the computer screen. My whole life I have whined, "I'm bored!" and when my mom would suggest something useful I could do, I'd resolve to just stay bored rather than exert myself in anything less than super fun.

Little has changed.

In school I've been a procrastinator. At work, I love payday and I love clocking out. I avoid doing my chores. I would rather buy junk food than cook. I rarely practice bassoon even though I'm still actively playing.

When does the cycle end? How do I force myself off the couch? How do I muster energy from nothing? How do I muster motivation?

Tuesday, October 28, 2014

Toxins

I've been imprisoned for 8,205 days.
I was born here and I fear
I shall never leave.

Instead of iron bars,
There is a force field.
I can roam
Within the barbed wire
From sea to shining sea.

Where is the freedom
From an upbringing?
Where is the freedom
From a poisoned culture
When every other culture
Has a poison
Of its own?

The cyanide is materialism
Drizzled on our food
We've grown immune
Or at least we live
With it.
We need it.
It's not cyanide;
It's heroin.

Every American is addicted at birth
And breaking free is too hard.
It's who we are.
We are addicts
To our culture.

Move to Asia.
Your sin will follow you.
Move to Antarctica.
You will die
From withdrawal.

"Your want is a need here."
That iPhone. Need.
Those clothes. Need.
That paycheck. Need.
That car. Need.

Have you lived among
The saintly plebeians?
Do you know what it's like
To do without?
To be the receiver
Of charity
Rather than the taker
Of "needs"?

Moths will eat your thirty scarves.
Moths will devour your sweaters.
Time will crush your devices.
And your habits will drain your paycheck.

How can I live in this world
But not be of it
When I can't help but breathe
The toxins?

If I throw my computer
Across the room
And watch it shatter on the wall,
What will I accomplish?
I will crumble to the floor
In sobs.
And then I will piece
My sin back together
As meticulously as it was built
In the factory.
Because that's what addicts do.

Loose my chains.
Take me home.
Please.
I didn't mean to be
A felon.


I've been adding and adding to a giveaway pile in my room. I decided that my three-week-old iPhone should go with it, so I went to the Verizon store and was told it was too late. I'd signed my name in blood, I guess. Later I learned that not all hope was lost, but I still felt the force of the blow. I sobbed all the way home (but held it together when my mother called me) because I felt trapped in a materialism I didn't want, trapped in my sin of an addiction to a device (that will probably remain in some form no matter how much stuff I get rid of), trapped in the regret of my choice to move on into the smartphone world.

When I finally turned on my radio, this Lecrae song was playing and it was so perfect for the moment but it just exacerbated my frustration.

Something is seriously wrong with me. Who cries because they have to have an iPhone? I don't know if I am being incredibly selfish and ungrateful or if I am being valiant in my pursuit of a more minimalistic lifestyle.

Anyway. That's the story behind the poem.


God bless.

Wednesday, October 15, 2014

Happy Pill

Some pills are over-the-counter.
Some pills are prescription.
Some pills are under-the-table.
But your pill fills the room.

Your pill is a giggle.
Laughter is a drug.
You clown around
To get your hourly fix.

At night you google
"Asphyxiation"
But when someone
Walks in the room,

You grasp at hope.

Where is the joy in a pun?
Where is the joy in a joke?
Where is your joy
When someone else laughs?

The leaves dance green in spring.
They are still robust in summer.
But in autumn they blush
Before they die.

Break your addiction.
The one that no one knows about.
Break your habit.
Quit feeding the snake.

Seek joy, not humor
Or you will die.
Like the leaves
And comedians.

Sunday, October 5, 2014

Substitution

I was praying (literally) for inspiration for a poem, as I haven't written anything in such a long time but so wanted to create, give back in some small way, when my dear friend Lexi texted me regarding a decision we've both been facing, and my prayer was answered. This is the result.


Alexis was once in love,
Deeply and passionately.
Sometimes the bright spark
Of sawdust caught aflame
Leads to a steady, lasting blaze.

But it usually vanishes.

With Alexis, things had
to end abruptly.
Her dazzlement remained.

Years later, she flirts unashamed
With the Rockies of Colorado,
With the Smokies of Tennessee.
But their eyes do not glint
In the sunlight
Quite the same way.
Their wisdom
Cannot make her cock her head
The way his could.
Their grins do not flip
Her heart in wild ecstasy.

A gas fireplace could not burn
Her soul comparably.

Surely another can be found!
Surely the good Lord
Created a replacement!

Alexis searches and prays
For a substitute
For the snowy mountain caps of home.

Someone strolls in casually
With a smirk and a wink.
Mountains of bronze,
Skies of azure.

Alexis leans in,
Rests her head,
Ignores the doubt.
Safety nets smell
Like cologne
And gas fires
And hot desert air.

Somehow it happens.
In the night Alexis is unsettled.

In the night Alexis slips away.
He woke up to empty sheets
But does not miss her.

She watches the sunrise to her right
As she drives to who-knows-where.
But the steering wheel knows
Somehow.

Who said truer words
Than Dorothy
When she clicked her heels?

Alexis returns to the one she loved,
The one no one could replace.
Alexis comes home
To the only one
Who could ever be home.

She knocks and he lets her in.
And there she stays.

Gray skies and white mountains
Were never sweeter.
There the fire brightly burns,
Inexhaustible.


God bless.

Monday, September 29, 2014

Lesson from a Fly

Moments ago, I was sitting on my stoop drinking a most delicious smoothie when a fly took interest. Can you blame it? It landed on the lid of my cup, but when I swatted at it, it flew away.

This fly's instantaneous response to my hand was, I think, a grand life-choice. It rejected something temporary for something lasting. It risked starving for a chance to live through this moment. This may seem normal and perfectly sane, but humans are rarely so wise!

Oh, the god of instant pleasure and gratification! Married to the goddess of quick fixes. How we worship them.

A basic example: choosing cake over salad. If all we eat for the rest of our lives is cake, we will surely die much sooner than if all we eat for the rest of our lives is salad (or at least I assume...I have never tried).

Another example: We choose sin over eternal life.

It's that simple.

Be like the fly. Fly away from that smoothie instead of getting the smack-down.



God bless.

Thursday, September 25, 2014

Misplaced

I suppose it makes sense that it is on my worst days that I long most achingly for my best days.

If you have known me for any length of time, you probably know about my 2013 and 2014 summer adventures in Juneau, Alaska. As time passes, I talk about it less, but nary a day goes by that it does not cross my mind.

Sure, I went to Alaska on Juneau Summer Project with Cru. It was the absolute time of my life, and sometimes I miss summer project more than anything else: the people, the relationships, the community.

But days like today, I ache for Alaska itself most of all: the terrain, the miserably wet weather, the water, the chill remedied only by a campfire, the wildlife, the glacier, the trees. I could go on.

Today was a rough day at work for me. It was very stressful and I felt like my arms were being pulled in multiple directions at once all day. I put 116 miles on my truck just from driving clients around town. I love my job but today it was just not easy and the whole day I felt like I was failing. I left the office with a stack of work to finish tomorrow, which I hate to do to my future self, but I just couldn't stay late today; eight hours was enough to do me in.

Days like this make me wonder about the meaning of home. I love my city. I love, love, love it. I love my living situation. I love my job. I love all the people here. I love the busyness and vibrancy. I adore my church. I love seeing God move in a city that I have become invested in. I love the fruits that are starting to grow because I have decided to root myself here.

I love this place like it is my home. But somehow I do not feel entirely at home here.

My citizenship is in Heaven. I recognize that and I long for it desperately. I can't wait to brush off my hands from the work of this life and rest in Paradise. But I've never been there. I don't really know what it's like.

What I do know is the one and only: Juneau, Alaska.

I will never forget the first time I saw snow-covered mountains. I was flying from Seattle to Juneau in May 2013. I was listening to "Sometimes" by David Crowder Band on my iPod. My breath was taken away. My jaw dropped.

It was my first glimpse of the magnificence I would be immersed in for the next two months and for another six weeks a year later.

Can I really only have spent three and a half months in Juneau over the duration of my life? How can a place I have spent so little time in inhabit such a large portion of my heart?

Last Sunday, my pastor talked about being in the world but not of it (based on John 17:10-19). I can feel it. I feel my other-worldliness. I can feel how misplaced I am here. I can feel that I am home, but only sort of.

This is why my aching love for Juneau makes such a great metaphor for Heaven. I love it so much more than where I am. I love it for selfish reasons: I love what it does for my soul. I have never felt closer to God than in the Alaskan wilderness. He is surely here in my city. He surely resides in my heart wherever I go. But his might is so tender in Juneau. His intimacy is so near.

I have had a foretaste of the feast to come.

I can't go back to Juneau right now, as much as I wish I could, just as I can't go to Heaven right now, as much as I would love to.

I am "stuck" in this city, on this planet.

But it's coming. I will go back to Juneau. And I will reach Heaven, and when I get there I am never coming back. How could I? I will finally be home. For now, I will rooten* myself where God wants me to be rooted.


God bless.



* "Rooten" is a word I made up a couple blog posts ago. I'm keeping and recycling it.

Sunday, September 14, 2014

Comfort

Two and a half weeks ago, I slammed my middle finger in the door as I was leaving the house.

I can't remember if I cried out or not, but my instant reaction was to shove my finger in my mouth. I ran back inside and ran cold water over it. I knew I needed to get ice but I couldn't bear to pull my finger out from under the water long enough to get an ice cube from the freezer.  My fingernail was a dark purple instantly.

Now the swelling has gone down and my dead, black fingernail is curling in on the sides, getting ready to fall off. For about a week I had to keep icing it because the pain was so persistent and the swelling so extreme.

When it became clear to me that I was wallowing in self-pity about my poor fingernail, I couldn't help but remember the post I wrote a couple months ago in response to the book I was reading, Tortured for Christ. I couldn't help but remember the story from that book of a pastor persecuted for his faith in Communist Russia. One of his particular punishments was having all his fingernails and toenails torn off.

How could I feel sorry for myself when he faced this pain so bravely? How could I be so miserable because of one smashed finger, in pain but so very far from death, when others, even today, stand on the brink of death and find joy in their suffering because they suffer for Christ?

I knew that I must find joy in my suffering. I spent about an hour journaling about this, talking to my Lord about the hope I have in the joy of Heaven and how my current pain is brief and endurable if I must suffer it as a prerequisite to such everlasting treasure.

Still, it became clear to me that I have an idolatry problem: the idol of comfort.

What do I want so very badly?
I want rest. I want to be warm. I want to be well-fed. I want to be happy. I want to live in a nice house with nice furnishings. I want sexual comfort (as opposed to the sexual tension and sexual destitution that comes with singleness). I want nice smells. I want tasty food. I want to have free time. I want to read pleasant novels. I want to be free from pain. I want to have money to spare. I want a new car. I want a full closet of clothes. I want the freedom to travel and do as I please. I want nice weather every day, all year round. I want to be healthy. I want constant emotional support. I want nice friends with comfortable lives like mine. I want fast internet and considerate drivers. I want to be spared from any and all awkward situations. I want to be lazy and have someone to do my work for me. I want to be a brat and not feel guilty about it. I want to be smarter/prettier/more talented/better than other people so that I can have plenty of confidence (or cockiness, whatever). Et cetera. Et cetera. Et cetera.

I want to be comfortable.

Now, find me a single Bible passage that says this is God's desire for me.

...No? Nothing?

And yet, when I remember that God certainly does not call me to these things (even though I have lived in the luxury of many of them for most if not all of my life), I despair. I remember that what God might call me to is pain. What if my smashed fingernail is just the beginning?

This is where I discover yet another lie that I am believing: the lie that if I reject my idol of comfort and embrace a life of following Christ, I will be miserable. The lie that I will not only be sacrificing wealth, physical well-being, and general comfort, I will be sacrificing joy.

I don't have a solution to this problem. I can't wrap up this particular blog post in a nice bow, because I am still fighting this idol and still fighting these lies. And although I may and hope to make great progress in this area as the years of my life pass, I suspect I will struggle with it my whole life.

After all, as I write this post I have been going back up to the list of things I want and adding things to it. This is my sin. I'm not saying I should have the things I want. I'm not saying there is anything good (or inherently wrong, in most cases) about my having them. But I am saying that I have a problem. And I am saying that this problem is quite extensive.

So far my progress (thanks to the Holy Spirit) amounts to recognizing the idol and recognizing the lie and beginning the process of conversing with God about it.

We'll see how far I've come in fifty or so years.


God bless.

Saturday, August 23, 2014

Happy Accidents

The other day I was having an ice cream with my friend Faith and what did we talk about? Of course: boys. I told her, as I am now telling you all, about my decision to take a year to be intentionally single. I told her that even if an attractive, friendly young man asked me on a date, I would say no because of this year-long commitment.

Of course, this doesn't keep me from desiring to go on a date, to fall in love, etc.

What if, during this next year of my life, I meet someone very, very special, and then I lose him because of the commitment I've made? Because I turned him down even though I didn't want to?


I'm not much of a painter at all, but I just watched my first Bob Ross episode. His voice was so soothing that I wanted to fall asleep, but I was way too intrigued by the beautiful painting unfolding before my eyes, which Bob Ross said reminded him of his own home in Alaska, to sleep.

Bob Ross is remembered for his views on mistakes. In this clip, he states the following:

"See what happens. As you paint, you see all kind of things happening on your canvas and very soon you learn to use all these beautiful little things that happen. I think in one of the earlier shows I mentioned, we don't, we don't make mistakes. We have happy accidents."

Now I really want to unfold this corny little metaphor I came up with over ice cream with Faith.

God is Bob Ross. My life is a canvas. Blank when I'm born and slowly developing over time. Bob and I are painting my life together, taking turns with the brush. Of course, Bob is the instructor and I am the pupil, but this is still a joint effort. Both our names get signed at the bottom in the end.

Bob Ross doesn't really seem to have any flaws in his paintings. They're stunningly beautiful. He is masterful, skilled, creative. His fingers move any brush with finesse. Then the brush is passed to me, but I am clumsy, stupid, and bumbling. I don't blend the colors well. I make a few wrong strokes. I act like I know what I'm doing but what I've ended up painting is not what I intended it to look like at all. I had no idea how to put on canvas the scene in my head, and I royally screwed it up.

While I pout, Bob Ross gently takes the brush from me and says, "You know what, you may have made some mistakes, but we're going to turn them into happy accidents. This painting will be more beautiful in the end because of your mistakes, but only if you allow me to turn them into something good."

Am I not right about this?

When I look back at all the mistakes and sin in my past, I no longer see a sloppy, shameful mess. I also don't see God covering it up with a rug saying, "Let's just pretend that didn't happen." I see grace. I don't know about you, but to me, grace is far more beautiful than if I were perfectly righteous to begin with.

Which is more beautiful to you-- an immaculate, perfectly groomed woman in a sultry evening gown? Or a woman with wild curly hair and gangly legs who piled up her hair into a beautiful bun and wore a sundress despite her gangly-ness? Perfection or completion?

Maybe it's just my opinion.

Whether you agree or not, though, you're going to make mistakes. And God will always say, "That's okay, we can work with that." Over time our painting skills will improve if we let our instructor do his job.

So if I meet the man of my dreams during this year and I turn him down, do you really think my life will end up in shambles? Do you really think I'll have "ruined everything"? Is there any way I can possibly mess this up?

That being said, I don't think my decision is a mistake, or at all sinful. I think this is healthy and will bring further healing to an area of my life that has been badly broken. This painting is a dual effort and we are going to use all the beautiful little things that happen.


God bless.

Saturday, August 2, 2014

Date with Jesus Ideas

As you may have read in my last post (I've used that phrase in like my last three posts... it's like I'm doing an unintentional series...), I want to start going on more regular "dates" with Jesus. After just reading this, I wanted to clarify to you what I mean by that.

Jesus is not taking the place of a husband or boyfriend. He created men for that. I'm single; there's no way around it. Rather, Jesus is my God. I can't think of anything more remarkable than that anyway.

My "dates" with Jesus are times of special intimacy with my Savior. It is essentially the same as daily quiet time/devotionals, but more special. Anyone who has dated before knows that there is "hanging out" with your boyfriend/girlfriend, and then there is "going on a date" with your boyfriend/girlfriend. One is more common; the other is more special. Both are good.

Here are a few "date ideas" I've come up with. I'm not very creative when it comes to things like this, so if you have anything to add, please mention it in the comments section below. (For those of you coming from Facebook, I am not talking about Facebook comments. I am talking about comments on this actual blog. Thanks. I know it's hard.)
  • Go to a garden or peaceful spot to read the Bible/journal
  • Walk around a park
  • Go out to eat (with Bible and journal)
  • Go on a hike (opt. while listening to worship music)
  • Go to an art museum
  • Play an instrument/sing to him
  • Visit an aquarium or zoo
  • Write poetry to him
  • Have prolonged prayer in a chapel
  • Build a fire and read the Bible/journal by it (He loves when we create!)

P.S. If you're a dude and the word "date" for having special time with the Lord is weird to you, change the word. But I recommend this practice for you too.



God bless.

Sunday, July 27, 2014

Romanced

As you may have read in my last post, I am reading the book Captivating by John and Stasi Eldredge. I just finished the chapter called "Romanced." Not surprisingly, it was all about how God romances us.

Oh, how I have been longing for this! While the book talked about it as if it were a new concept to the reader (and for me it is not--I have long considered Jesus my Lover in very real ways), it still struck a chord with me. It was exactly what I have been needing to read.

Recently single, I have been deeply missing the intimacy that comes with being in a relationship, and it has left me longing for another one (even though in my head I know it is way too soon to start thinking about that again).

In theory, I know my priorities. I know that there is only One who can love me adequately, only One who will ever know my soul more intimately than even I know it myself. I know that no one can take his place.

So why do I look? Why do I, like Hosea's wife, chase lover after lover? Why do I turn to mere men to fulfill my heart's deepest desire? Why do I trust that a man can do what only God can do?

I am trying to find the balance between allowing myself to feel the normal longing for an earthly romance while not becoming preoccupied with it. I am trying to find my satisfaction in the Lord. And it's hard.

Putting forth the effort is something I have failed in. Like a woman who demands that her lover romance her constantly and berates him should he spend a single moment inattentive to her (of course she doing nothing for him; "I should be treated like a queen!"), I am waiting for God to show up in my life and romance me without my pursuing him very much at all. I am sure that he, being God of all, will never tire of showing me affection, but there is much more of a limit on how much of that affection I experience well if I am only taking, never giving. A relationship is two-sided.

As I was reading the chapter, a beautiful thunderstorm was raging outside. The sun was low in the sky, casting a gold light onto the wet street in front of my house. I watched it for a while. I felt romanced.

The sermon this morning was about Joseph and Potiphar's wife. The story goes that Potiphar's wife sees how handsome and strong Joseph is and wants to sleep with him, but he continually denies her. The pastor pointed out that no normal man would be able to do this. The only difference between men who do sleep with women and men who don't is opportunity. So how did Joseph resist? How did he flee her persistent allure? 

By loving God more. It was not obedience that would have given him such discipline; obedience alone would have collapsed under the pressure. It was loving God more.

It was by playing a more beautiful song that sailors were able to escape the allure of the sirens.

The author of Captivating said something very similar. (Think God is trying to nail something down with me today??) It pointed out that martyrs do not follow Christ even to death because of mere obedience. How could they? It is because of their fiery love for him that they are so devoted.

This is what I long for!

By the end of the chapter, an old feeling I have not felt in a while came over me: I am so in love with Jesus, that even the best relationship with a man seems pale and dull. I am so in love with Jesus that I do not want to be distracted from him by being in a relationship!

It's an odd and admittedly rare feeling, but I cling to it.

I used to go on regular "dates" with Jesus, but it's been a while. I feel like I missed my opportunity today (I will go tomorrow), but I think Sundays after church will be a good day to make that a regular habit again. I want to indulge in this relationship. I want to play an active role again. I encourage you to do the same. I do not expect to be disappointed.


God bless.

Friday, July 18, 2014

Fixated

She is the gem on its tip.
She hums a melody never before heard,
Never to be heard again.

Her eyes are the shape of cats' eyes
But softer around the edges
and framed with ravens' feathers.
Their coloring is grayish-green
And maybe a streak of blue.
They speak of mysteries and wisdom,
Depth and quietude,
And a paradox: a peaceful restlessness.

A slender neck supports a fiercely
Feminine jaw
On which sits her lips:
Bright, plump, and alive,
Beckoning.

Light brown hair encircles
A smooth, tanning forehead,
Curling around the ears,
slightly tousled.
Dark arched eyebrows
Unveil character and youth.

And her nose,
The symmetry of all of it,
Is plain and uninteresting.
It neither takes away nor adds anything.
But all is well with this;
All the more can the observer
Focus on the lovelier bits.

Straight, white smiles
Cause the corners of her eyes
To crinkle.

Her slightly pointed chin
Points to a slightly curved collarbone
Which is formed like a smooth
Piece of polished wood.

Follow the arms to the hands and there
Will be found one of the loveliest:
Long, slender fingers.
Their every movement is a dance.
A dark freckle above a knuckle.

In modesty, the rest remains secret.
Her body is a pearl, and it waits.
But be assured
That little disappointment
Is to be found there.

She looks in the mirror.
Alone, with no one but herself and her Maker
to admire the creation before her.
She winks,
She laughs,
And she delights
In only herself
And her only Admirer.


I wrote this poem after reading the first chapter of the book Captivating by John and Stasi Eldredge, which, in part, talked about a woman's desire to unveil beauty. It's true! I love to feel beautiful and I know that I am beautiful. I also love to unveil beauty via poetry.

This poem is about me. I have described myself. Perhaps it is vain; I don't know. But (at the risk of sounding cliché), I love the skin I'm in! I love the body suit that God has given me as a home for my soul. I truly wish that every woman would be able to write a poem like this about herself. It is right that a woman's desire to be celebrated for her beauty is fulfilled.

I am single and, as you may have read in my last post, alone much of the time. When I feel beautiful, I have to rely on God to be the one to admire me. And he does. And he also gives me the pleasure of having my own beauty revealed to me as well, so that I may enjoy the feeling of knowing I look lovely.

I hope that you, too, will be able to see yourself in this way. Our Lord is good. As we used to say at camp, "God don't make no junk."


God bless.

Pseudo-life

Rarely do I talk about my own life on this blog, but I feel like this week has been so quiet and bizarre that it's worth semi-briefly noting.

I moved into my very first big-girl place: a duplex only a few blocks away from where I went to college. It's a charming little house with three floors plus a basement, twisting staircases, and a nice front porch. The third floor was recently renovated by our landlord and still smells like fresh, light yellow paint. It feels strange filling its rooms with my own junk.

Basically, this week has consisted of gathering all my junk that I've accumulated in the last 20+ years of living, packing it all into two vehicles, and then trying to unpack it all again. The unpacking part has been a slow process. I still have bags of who-knows-what on my bedroom floor. At least half the battle is simply figuring out where I want to put it all. You all have moved before. You know.

Then there's been the job-searching. So far I have had one interview and have another one scheduled for Monday. I've been applying online for jobs that I know little to nothing about. Upload resume, submit. Upload resume, submit. I'm hoping I'll soon be able to confidently pay my bills.

Figuring out how to be a grown-up really isn't that hard. I've been weaned into it pretty well. Although I lived in dorm rooms for all four years of college, I figured out how to take care of myself and make my own schedule. The last two summers I have lived in an apartment in Alaska, where I was there short-term and only brought a suitcase's and a backpack's worth of stuff with me (and thus didn't have to "settle in"), but I still learned how to grocery shop, feed myself, and spontaneously clean as opposed to needing to be told by my parents.

And now, here I am. Not much different except now I have to find a full-time job instead of going to class, and I have to be financially independent. Not that hard, right? I'm only a few days in, so we'll see. Grown-up life should be a cinch.

But the social situation has also been weird. As of right now, my roommates and I are on radically different schedules, so I rarely see the one, and the other is out of town for a month. Fortunately I'm friends with my next-door neighbors, and Amy lives just a few blocks away, but I'm still alone the majority of the time, which I'm not used to anymore.

So I've been lonely and bored. I'll organize while listening to music upstairs in my attic/bedroom. I'll sit on the couch and apply for jobs online. I'll go grocery shopping, but that only takes like an hour. I'll eat at random times instead of having real meals. I've finished a book and started another. I've spent a lot of time on Pinterest. (Like, a lot.) I've daydreamed.

I've racked my brain for people I could hang out with without sounding like a needy attention-hog. I've Facebooked and texted to get my social needs met. Whenever my roommate's path has crossed mine, I've followed her around pathetically, trying awkwardly and desperately to make conversation, when all she wants to do is have some alone time after work.

So, life feels kind of bizarre for me right now. Transition is weird. But I have an interview on Monday, so. Maybe real grown-up life will ensue soon. Right now I think I'm still in the pseudo-stages. The unending weekend where I still have to be productive.

Thanks for reading.


God bless.

Wednesday, July 9, 2014

Lukewarm

It's funny, almost bizarre, sometimes, the way God works.

Here is the order of events that occurred to me this evening:

1) I got on Facebook because I was bored.

2) On Facebook I saw a link to an article about why, "scientifically," one should date someone who reads. I read the article and it made me want to read a book.

3) I picked up my book I've been working my way through called "Tortured for Christ" by Richard Wurmbrand. It is a quick and intellectually easy read, but psychologically and spiritually very difficult and convicting. I am only about 2/3 through.

4) After deciding it was time for bed, I lied there reflecting in prayer about what I had just read. Most of it was describing how the horrors of Communism goes unnoticed and ignored by the lukewarm Church in the West, while zealous Christians give their lives for their Savior in Communist nations.

5) I prayed that I would be enabled do something. I inadvertently started "writing" in my head, so here I am, blogging away half an hour before midnight. I didn't want to lose my words by waiting until tomorrow.


I wish I could explain why I am so troubled, but only Richard Wurmbrand and the Holy Spirit can move in the minds and hearts (respectively) of people in this particular way, I think.

He's right. The "civilized" West is a decaying world. The United States houses a lukewarm church. I have seen evidence of this, as well as evidence to the contrary. I have lived barely more than 20 years, barely leaving my home country or even my home state, but here is what I have seen.

I have seen my parents teaching their children how to have a relationship with Christ from the earliest age. I have seen those same parents pray and read the Bible with their children as well as support their mission work.

I have seen the church I grew up in, consisting mostly of elderly folks, pray and study diligently, treating each other with kindness, praying with one another, helping each other through tough times, send out missionaries, and live out their faith quietly in their respective lives.

I have seen the first church I attended regularly in college slip into a habit of refusing to "convert" people at the risk of being un-accepting, downplaying the Gospel, discussing theology and philosophy over beer rather than concerning ourselves with the sins of its members. It was a museum of culture, art, and theology, as well as vaguely spiritual souls. This same church, however, feeds the homeless and shows love to all who walk through its doors. I love this church but they are guilty of what St. Francis considered a virtue: "Speak the Gospel at all times. When necessary, use words." Apparently it is not often necessary to speak the Gospel with words.

I have attended another church where the Gospel is boldly proclaimed not on a weekly basis, but on a daily one, where the number of members has skyrocketed from a few to over a thousand in only five years because of its potency and love for the Gospel of Jesus Christ. No church is without its flaws but I do not think this church would need to change much even if America became a Communist nation. The Gospel would be proclaimed there all the more loudly.

I have worked at a Christian summer camp that (perhaps unknowingly) hired atheists and universalists, people living sinful, double lives, to teach Bible study to children. At this same camp I have found people madly in love with Jesus and with a great passion for his little children to know him.

I have sat through worship services, bored and angry that I got the impression that no true worshiping was happening at all.

I have sat through other worship services where I wept and sang with all my heart, or danced with joy, along with many others.

I have never been anyplace where my Christian faith was illegal, yet I have often failed to share the Gospel when I should have.

I have led one or two people to Christ almost inadvertently, but have wished and tried and prayed more than anything that others would come to know Christ and yet have been unsuccessful.

I have failed to read my Bible daily or to pray for the persecuted.

Instead, I concern myself with trite issues such as daydreaming about whom I might someday marry, or wondering when I will do my laundry, or checking Facebook.

Although I have never literally renounced my Jesus, I have renounced him by remaining silent many, many times.


And what shall I do? How will I end my lukewarm attitude and the lukewarm attitude of the American church? How will I care for the martyrs of this world? How will I myself by a martyr, even if I stay in my own country? How will I learn to love my neighbors around the world (and actually do it)?

I ask that you ask these same questions along with me. If you do not feel convicted (you very well may not, as I am pretty much just ranting until my cranial juices run out for the night), I would highly encourage you to "Tortured for Christ."


God bless.

Monday, July 7, 2014

Baseless

Can't sleep, want to write, you're welcome.

Today's prompt for the day (yesterday by the time this gets published) from 365 Days of Writing Prompts reads:

Rolling stone
If you could live a nomadic life, would you? Where would
you go? How would you decide? What would life be like
without a “home base”?


My answer to this is... well... no. The biggest reason I would not choose this life is for purpose of community. I need good community to thrive, and that simply can't happen when I never allow myself to rooten. (I just made up that word. I hate made-up words. But that should be a real word.)

The other thing holding me back is that I'm a young, single woman and I highly doubt such a lifestyle would be safe for me. However, for the sake of this post, let's pretend that's not a thing.

Also money. Let's pretend that's also not a problem.

But, if not for these things, I would totally live the nomad's life.

At this point I would probably settle for living out of my car. I would drive around the country, no, continent, and find remote places to set up camp. I would cook my meals over fires and sing into the night sky. I would hike, live off the land and off the grid. I would make friends with the locals in random small towns and come back to the same spots every few years to catch up. The open road would be my sweet, sweet home.

But I suppose, as I aged, living out of a car would prove to be insufficient. I would then opt for a "tiny" house, which can be basically a trailer, built modestly, efficiently, and uniquely. This would also be a good option for if/when I got married. Because they're mobile, you can still take them just about anywhere. It's like a camper--but more like a home on wheels.

This type of living appeals to my love of nature, restless spirit (which may only last as long as I am young), my fantasy of a minimalist lifestyle, and the environmental and economic benefits associated with it. 

Of course, I have my doubts that this dream would ever come to fruition, but I'm still glad you asked.


God bless.

Monday, June 16, 2014

Sock Shopping

OR: Why a Relationship With Jesus is Better Than Marriage

I was in an outfitting store today and saw the greatest pair of purple wool hiking socks, but I didn't buy them because they were like $16+. But I wanted them.

Imagine you are in a similar situation. Your feet are cold and you need socks to keep them toasty warm. So you're shopping and finally find a pair of World-Socks that, while maybe a little pricey, are worth your money. While there may still be a little chill in your bones with them on (after all, hiking in Alaska can get brisk), they will keep your feet pretty warm-ish. Plus they will help wick away the sweat when the hiking gets tough. Their sizing is the typical sock sizing (for foot sizes 4-10) so they're in your range. The World-Socks are pretty high quality so they will last you several years, but eventually you know that they will wear out and get holes and you will have to throw them away. They just won't last forever. The packaging is a little jostled and you wonder if previous shoppers have ever tried them on before. But, again, they're pretty high quality so you finally decide to buy them. Overall, you're satisfied with your purchase.

Later (five minutes, five years, whatever), you see a pair of Life-Socks in the same store. They are seriously the coolest socks you have ever seen. Not only do they keep your feet 100% toasty warm even in the snow, they keep them perfectly dry too. They're size 8.5 so it's like they're custom-made for your feet. The Life-Socks package (which has clearly never been opened) advertises a lifetime guarantee: they will literally never wear out. They seem too good to be true and you almost walk away, thinking they must be way out of your price range, when you notice that little orange sticker: FREE.

Of course you buy the Life-Socks even though you may have already invested in the World-Socks. You still want to keep the World-Socks because, after all, they were a pretty good find, but you know that they'll never compare to your Life-Socks. In fact, wearing them both together is the toasty warmness you were looking for, even though the Life-Socks would suffice on their own. One is clearly far better than the other, but they're both good socks.

That's all.


God bless.

Saturday, June 14, 2014

Talking

Hey-o! I've been in Alaska for the last several weeks but have failed to post anything. Sometimes I'm just really busy, and when I'm not busy, writing is not something I've been super gung-ho about doing. I think a lot of that has to do with how much talking I'm doing.

Yesterday Tyler asked me my favorite part about Summer Project and after a moment of thinking, I responded, the community. Here is a place where 20 women (and 25 or so men) who don't know each other are thrown together and expected to work beside each other and grow in their faith together. I live in an apartment with three other women, I "disciple" the four girls that I lead a Bible study for, and the rest I simply want to get to know on my own accord.

It's more a stereotype than reality that women talk more than men, but there is some truth to it, and women do love to talk. We talk about everything from our faith to the men in our lives to our diet. Once you start letting walls down, the goofy side of everyone comes out too.

I've found that my apartment is always in either hysterical mode or super serious, potentially crying mode. There's almost no in-between, but I love it. Switching straight from one to the other can be a little disconcerting, though. The other day I was super excited about new hatchets Evan had gotten for the outfitting supplies, and I ran into the apartment with them hooting and hollering only to find one of my roommates on her bed crying and talking about a spiritual problem she'd been struggling with. Whoops. I had to transition from ax-wielding wildwoman to concerned, caring friend in an instant.

Then there's the discipleship. Every week I'm to sit down with four women individually to talk about life and God for at least an hour. And I'm the one leading the discussion, helping them grow, etc. I'm not complaining by any means, but it's just a lot of talking to be responsible for.

And every moment in between is socializing with the girls, calling and texting friends back home, trying to connect with and reach out to the locals, making time to talk to Tyler every day, and making time to talk to God every day.

Don't get me wrong. I love a good, deep conversation. I love lots of good, deep conversations. But being bombarded with them has definitely been a lifestyle adjustment. I'm finally getting used to having multiple super-in-depth conversations a day.

And with that, I'm off to another discipleship session.




God bless.

Tuesday, May 20, 2014

Gods that Fail

About a week and a half ago, a professor at my school killed himself. He was a jazz pianist, taught music in the conservatory, and had been having hearing problems for almost two years. It was the kind where the brain confuses music for noise like clanging pots and pans; ugly, dissonant chaos. This, in turn, caused his depression.

I didn't personally know this man, so I don't know what he was like before he began to suffer from this terrible ailment. I don't know his priorities, his joys, his lifestyle. Forgive me, but I'm going to make some assumptions in order to explain something that I think is essential to understand or at least consider.

My first two and a half years of school were spent as a music major. I eventually wised up and realized that my true passion was psychology, so I dropped out of the conservatory. During that time, though, I met quite a few other music majors. Obviously.

I was astounded at how much this people loved, adored, and worshiped music. Music was the sun their lives revolved around. In fact, I was in a class my freshman year where the professor would recite, "Music is a lifestyle," and the class would respond in unison, "...not a hobby." Many students were so enthusiastic about chanting this one line. (I, on the other hand, refused to join in. I am a very honest person and simply wouldn't renounce my lifestyle where music was, frankly, only a hobby.)

Die-hard music majors spent every spare moment in practice rooms. They got music-related tattoos. Voice majors sang operatically to themselves as they walked down the sidewalk. They only hung out with other music majors, and they only talked about music. I could barely stand to eat a meal with one of these groups because I wanted so desperately to talk about something other than music for once.

Music was their god, the god that wouldn't fail them. Music is forever. Music permeates lives; music expresses the most vibrant ecstasy and the most heart-shattering sorrows. It is full of endless possibilities yet it is unified and all-encompassing.

But sometimes, music does fail. Sometimes, music turns to clanging.

When the god of your heart fails you with no hope of ever being there for you again, what is the point of living?

Of course, music is not the only god. Many, many people worship happiness. Happiness is often seen as the highest good. We search for it, strive for it, try everything to achieve it (in some cases, mistaking it for pleasure). When it eludes us, with no hope of it ever returning or even making the smallest appearance, when depression or anxiety gets the better of us, our meaning for life has been dissolved. Our god of happiness has abandoned us.

The same can be said for love; certain relationships. How many times has a separation from a loved one, such as a divorce or death, left someone contemplating suicide?

I am sure there are plenty more examples of this.

I'm not saying that a failed god is the only motivator for suicide. The majority of suicides are an attempt to end psychological pain, a trigger that may come about in any number of ways. I theorize that one type of psychological pain results from the god of someone's heart failing them, causing loss of hope and loss of meaning.


However, I believe that I have found a god that cannot fail. That god is God.

The god of my heart is all-knowing: he understands my desires, my strengths, my thoughts, my weaknesses, my emotions, and my needs.

The god of my heart is all-loving: he will work things out for my good even when I'm not happy with it (like a parent disciplining their child out of love).

The god of my heart is all-just: he does not turn a blind eye toward evil. He breaks down sobbing alongside us when we suffer.

I understand that there is evil and suffering in this world. I know it looks like God has failed his people, his creation, because he hasn't made everything all better. But God is also all-patient: we haven't reached the end of the story yet. The clock is still ticking.

The god of my heart is all-powerful: he can do something about this. He will not fail.

The god of my heart revealed these traits when he showed Death that even it has no power over neither him nor his people.

My god is God, and he is the god that does not and will not fail. It is because of him that I have a reason to live.


If you have a hard time understanding how this can possibly be true because of the evil and suffering in this world, I recommend "The Problem of Pain" by C.S. Lewis.

If you feel like God has failed you, I would love to address it, but I can't anticipate the nuances of your situation in order to write about it here, so please email me at maryannkbennett@gmail.com and I will be happy to correspond with you about it. I'm not famous or popular or even that busy, so don't feel like it would be a burden to me to hear from you.

Thanks, as always, for reading.


God bless.

Monday, May 12, 2014

22 years

Yesterday we had a big family party celebrating:

My graduation from college
Sam's confirmation
Five birthdays (yes, five.)
Mother's day

The fact that yesterday was my actual twenty-second birthday was not overlooked despite the hubbub, but I can't say it really felt like my birthday either. Or that I now feel twenty-two instead of twenty-one.

I only pulled the "birthday girl" card once: so I could take the first turn as judge in Apples to Apples.

Then again, my birthdays have gotten progressively understated. I guess that's expected with the onset of adulthood. Maybe in five to ten years I'll be making a big deal of birthdays for my kids and my own birthday will pass by practically unnoticed. In ten years I'll be turning thirty-two. And who cares about being thirty-two?

Then again, maybe an aged Taylor Swift will have a song out about the wonders of being thirty-two like she did for twenty-two. Maybe.

Oh, yeah. If you read my last post you might be hoping for a follow-up.

Only about 3 people said anything on Facebook, and about 5 other people who couldn't be with me in person texted or called.

I'm okay with that, actually. I'm not hurt that a lot of people I'm "friends" with didn't know the significance of yesterday.

Why do I have a Facebook anyway??
...Probably because then I wouldn't know what to do with myself when I'm bored and wanted to veg. The wonders of killing time via the internet has been ingrained in me since adolescence.

Nevertheless, I don't really want to be creeped on. I want to get phone calls from people I haven't seen in a while who don't know what's going on in my life so that I can actually tell them. Or even--(gasp)--write letters!

I should probably stop saying these things because 1) this is not what this post is supposed to be about; I'm rambling 2) It's probably heresy and the internet police are going to come after me. I'm supposed to be a good little internet user with my blog and my Facebook and my multiple email accounts and my hours mindlessly wasted.

Just kidding, I want to continue my rant. Descartes introduced the idea that in order to find truth, one must doubt all they believe. If something is undeniably true, it can be kept as a belief, but everything else must undergo close scrutiny in order to discover truth. I think I tend to do this sometimes.

But I'm a total hypocrite because I literally just paused writing this post to creep on someone on Facebook that I've never met and am not friends with. It's like people-watching from the comfort of my own home.

Anyway, my birthday was yesterday and it was good despite the chaos and I think I'd like to have another one in about a year and I'm grateful to the people that remembered and wished me a happy birthday. And that's what I'm really trying to say in this post.


God bless.

Sunday, May 4, 2014

Facebook Birthday

In my recent post, I mentioned my upcoming birthday.

A couple months ago, I made the decision to take my birthday off Facebook for a variety of reasons. I probably don't need to tell you what having a Facebook birthday implies, but:

Suddenly, at midnight, hundreds of your acquaintances who would not have otherwise known, are alerted that it is officially your birthday. For the next 24 hours, generic "happy birthday!" posts are splattered over your wall and you are burdened with the task of "liking" all of them, commenting on all of them, or, if you're lazy, making a status saying, "Thanks for all the birthday wishes!" The end.

Not for me. Frankly, I'd rather have a few birthday cards from the people that care enough about me to remember my birthday without assistance than to have hundreds of lame, almost thoughtless virtual greetings.

So I took it off. It's not your business to know my birthday anyway if you don't know me well enough that it never came up. It's personal, like, you don't publish your phone number on Facebook, do you? No, you let someone ask for it (I'm hoping).

I'm curious what will happen this year. I'm guessing someone will remember and write something on my wall, which other people will see and follow suit. But I still think it will be significantly fewer people. Not that this is a social experiment.

I'm not out to pity myself by any means, but I am curious to see who knows my birthday when they aren't conveniently told.

I may or may not let you all know how it went. I'm not doing this because I hate birthdays (quite the contrary), nor because I want to keep my birthday a secret. I'm doing this because I care about intimacy.


God bless.

Brief Life Update

Mere seconds ago, a bird flew into the window and scared the crap out of me (figuratively).

I have been very much a slacker about writing posts for the last month or so. I have a couple excuses for my bad behavior. 1) I have been full of school work (consisting mostly of paper-writing). 2) After all that paper-writing, I have not felt like writing much at all, even though my schedule has cleared up.

But anyway. I have graduated from college (as of yesterday). I am officially a bachelor. hahahhahaahaha...

I've been playing a lot of Candy Crush lately.

My birthday is in exactly one (1) week.

I'm going to Juneau, AK for another mission trip this summer.

I'll be moving back into my college town in July, hopefully with a job.

Now you know.


God bless.

Thursday, April 10, 2014

Imperfection

Today's writing prompt from 365 Days of Writing Prompts is imperfection: "Imperfections -- in things, in people, in places -- add character to life. Tell us about an imperfection that you cherish."

Nothing came to mind right away. I initially started thinking about the things I love. (I decided to talk about a thing, not a person, because no one wants their imperfections published on the internet, even if I am saying what I like about them.)

I look around my room, think about the places I've lived, the things I have, and I really struggle to think of anything "imperfect" that I like. I don't like when my things are broken or worn out or dirty. I just don't. I tend to think that problems are meant to be fixed. I may like something with a flaw, but I don't like the flaw itself.

This prompt proves more difficult to answer than I thought it would be. I can't talk about an imperfect thing that I cherish, I have to cherish the imperfection itself.

As I think about it, I think it's much easier to love flaws in nature than to love flaws in the man-made. When the ground is dirty, we rejoice; when the carpet is dirty, we get angry. Rugged mountains are far more well-loved than even the straight, perfect edges of buildings. We hate a leaky sink but love a trickling brook.

Indeed, the only "material" thing that I found that I liked the flaw in was my hiking boots. I like that they're dirty and starting to get worn out. They bespeak the adventures I've been on. When I look at them, many fond memories come to mind. If they were still new and shiny, the only memory associated with them would be when I bought them in the store.

So the only reason I love an imperfection on a man-made thing is because of its natural associations.

In nature, art, and people, flaws can be beautiful and celebrated. The man-made world strives for perfection, and this is the world we live in and strive for. Why?


God bless.

Sunday, March 30, 2014

Why I Didn't Give Anything Up for Lent

Happy mid-Lent everybody. I hope you're having a wonderfully somber time.

Really, though, every year since I was about eleven I have done something for Lent. I started out when I was younger by doing easy things like giving up chocolate. It was a good start to getting me in the practice of spiritual disciplines.

When I got older, I started doing harder things, like committing to reading my Bible every day, giving up meat, committing to being in bed by 11 p.m. every night, or fasting one day a week. I tried to keep these things pretty secretive when I was doing them because of their introspective nature. I share them with you now so that 1) you can see that Lent does not need to be confined to giving up pop or something like that 2) you can see where I stand on this: I am all for spiritual disciplines. I don't intend to flaunt my spirituality either, because I've definitely flubbed up on some of those commitments or had a hard time finding the spiritual benefit in them.

This year, I had several ideas for what I could do. My problem (if you could call it that) is that I often take things literally, like when I considered taking a vow of silence or when I cut my dreads, to name a few instances. I also have a weird desire to be a radical, to live out my beliefs as practically and externally as possible, not to prove a point to anybody, but because it's the right thing to do, the most genuine way to live.

I think that's why I admire Chris McCandless so much. He had passionate beliefs, like hunger is wrong and money causes greed. So after graduating college, he donated his $24,000 of savings to Oxfam and lived an intentionally minimalistic life for his remaining two years. Maybe his lifestyle is not the one I would strive for, but he acted on his beliefs, and that, to me, is incredibly important. I'm convinced that he found his life to be very meaningful and fulfilling. I can only hope to live as genuinely as him. Same with Jesus.

Anyway, I had all these ideas for changing myself, but was having a hard time finding both spiritual merit and practicality behind any of them.

It was Ash Wednesday and I still didn't have anything. Church was an emotional time for me that night, and I realized during the service that my efforts to change myself are futile. As I experienced last summer and fall, God is capable of radically transforming my heart where my own efforts failed.

So I gave it up and decided, fine, let's see how God changes me.

I can't look back and say yet what has changed, but I do think he is helping me to recognize my sin and repent. I don't really know what else. We'll see.


God bless.

Thursday, March 27, 2014

Roles

The woman who took my order at dinner's name was Ebony. It struck me as a lovely name, and it inspired this poem, which really has nothing to do with the name.


Ebony heels
Click through the doorway.
An ebony pencil skirt
Plops onto the couch.
An ebony soul
Bares itself.

Pink eyes
Drop tears onto
Pink-ink notes
Observed by
A pink soul.

Deep purple
Is the enmeshment
Of an ebony and pink embrace.


God bless.

Support Letter

Dear friends,                                                                                                           March 27, 2014

I hope you have been well. I want to thank you again for your support last year of two mission trips. Here is what has been going on in my life lately. I am still heavily involved with Cru (Campus Crusade for Christ) and through that have been leading “Women’s Ministry and Discipleship” here at Capital University. I feel that God has helped me grow and develop a lot this year, as a leader and in my personal spiritual journey. I have two babysitting jobs and am working hard in school to finish up my final year. I am excited to graduate in May with a Bachelor of Arts degree in Psychology and am looking forward to seeing where God takes me from there.

Cru is an international organization that is active on many college campuses in the U.S. The purpose statement on their website reads: “[We are] helping to fulfill the Great Commission in the power of the Holy Spirit by winning people to faith in Jesus Christ, building them in their faith and sending them to win and build others; and helping the Body of Christ do evangelism and discipleship.” Please contact me if you have more questions about what Cru is and what they are all about!

This summer, I have been graciously invited to come back to Juneau, Alaska to be on staff for this year’s Women’s Summer Project. I am very excited to see how God will use me this summer, especially since I will be in a leadership role this time. I will be there from the end of May to the beginning of July.

In order to make this trip a reality, I need your help. First of all, I need you to pray. Please pray for me and the other staff members as we train the students to be Godly disciples. Please pray for the students, that they may learn from us and from their experiences in Juneau and grow to resemble Christ more. Please pray for the residents of Juneau, that they will be receptive to hearing the Gospel from us and that they will be open to forming friendships with those of us on the Summer Project.

My staff position is not paid, so I also need your help to raise the $1,650 necessary to go. This is the minimum amount I need to raise, as it does not cover travel costs. Please prayerfully consider giving $300, $200, $100 or some other amount in order to help make this happen.

I have included a response card and return envelope for you to let me know about your financial decision. Please make your checks payable to Cru, as your gift is tax-deductible. You can also give online at give.gosummerproject.com/maryann-bennett/. Remember that God loves a cheerful giver (2 Corinthians 9:6-7)! Please feel free to contact me with any questions you may have, or if you just want to chat! Thank you very much.


God bless!
Maryann

Thursday, March 13, 2014

Life is Like a Box of Chocolates

You never know what you're gonna get.

I took today's writing prompt from 365 Days of Writing Prompts, which reads, "Take a quote from your favorite movie — there’s the title of your post. Now, write!"

Forrest Gump is not necessarily my favorite movie, but it is my default answer for favorite movie. I mean, it's still really, really good, am I right? And that line is certainly not my favorite line from that movie, but it is probably the most famous one. And the easiest one to work with.

So anyway. I'm going to actually write now. I just wanted to let you know what I was doing.


I got a box of chocolates for Valentine's Day. A real, heart-shaped box. And a bouquet of roses. Am I a lucky lady or what? Even more luckily, the chocolates inside the box of chocolates were all ones that I liked. I didn't throw any of them away due to peanuts or coconut shavings or whatever other nastiness is to be found in chocolates from boxes of chocolates. I ate, and enjoyed, all of them.

This is not what life is like.

I don't know where the bad stuff in life comes from. I don't know whose idea it was to put peanut bits on/in perfectly good pieces of chocolate. Maybe God allows it to happen without actually liking that it happens, like in the book of Job. But I don't know. The fact is, it's there, and we're kind of stuck with dealing with it.

There's that moment-- you've surveyed the box full of chocolates trying to find the most delicious-looking piece. You think you've found the one, but you can never know for sure, so you bite in and see. That first bite is a moment of horror. Will you like what you find, or will you have to spit it out?

I feel like I'm at that moment in life right now. I'm on the verge of graduating from college and I have literally no idea where I'll be or what I'll be doing even six months from now. No idea. I'm biting in, and I don't know what I'll find. And it's horrifying.

But hopefully I'll find something creamy or marshmallowy and undeniably, satisfyingly sweet.


God bless.